Dear SJ
I feel like my life is weighing me down and I just don’t know what to do.
– Unhappy.
Dear ‘Unhappy’,
Forgive.
Forgive them.
Forgive them all.
Forgive them all for everything.
They do not have the mental, emotional and physical capability to support and grow with you.
If you can, look up my video blog on YouTube, where I have a video called “Remove yourself.” You are well within your right to remove and shift your life. Hang around people who will not weight you down. It is very important not to hang around anyone – and I mean anyone – who weighs you down.
And when you remove yourself from the negativity, show them – because you probably can’t get rid of all of them – how it’s done.
Be an example of what you wanted them to be like. That is how you change the world.
Dear SJ,
I’m a 26-year-old woman and I’m wary of finding a good man in this age. It seems like good men cannot be found anymore. Where are the good men?
– Sad in the city.
Dear ‘Sad in the city’,
That is true, good men are few and far in-between. We lost Ubuntu when the whites came by. Our standards of dating have been destroyed and now people are just doing whatever. Most boys are on the loose and running wild.
Most women confuse boys for men because of sex.
What you need to look out for is kindness, positiveness, and some good old effort toward relationship skills. Watch how he communicates. Apply the 90-day rule. If he doesn’t meet your good man needs, leave him. He will be having some growing to do.
Sonny Jermain is an award-winning public health, maternal, sexual and reproductive health rights facilitator and a traditional psychic. This column appears Thursdays on Enthuse. Send questions to asksj@enthusemag.com or WhatsApp +263 71 387 2286. Follow @SonnyJermain.
