Dating nowadays is complicated. There are endless underhand tactics, unspoken rules and too many options.
From the surface, it seems like most people now have no interest in settling down, but there’s one sub-group of people who are tying knots or just living together than most Christians.
Earlier in April, this magazine ran an article entitled “70 Percent of Single Women want Christian Men to ‘Man up’ and Ask them out“. The story was specifically based on a probe overseen by writer Samuel Verbi in cooperation with a megachurch in the UK. The two parties revealed some shocking discoveries of Christian dating culture: that there was steadily a paucity of single men in the church.
In the piece, many single women who were quoted murmured about this exiguousness of men and demanded that they ‘man up and ask them out’.
“If you like someone, ask them out – be the man!” said one woman.
“Be brave, be masculine! Men are meant to be men! In the real world, men ask women out and pursue them all the time”, while others were a little less tactful: ‘Grow a pair of
balls.’
Likewise, several men were also given the same human courtesy to share their contexts and two of the quoted few said, “It’s difficult to find a woman that I really click with. It seems that I just haven’t met the right girl yet,” while another one added,“I’d much rather just hang out as friends and get to know them that way”.
Thus, in a culture that still tells us we need boyfriends, girlfriends, wives, husbands and regular sex to be happy and successful, being single doesn’t come out like a marvellous space to be in, unless one goes the celibatic way.
But now the dilemma underlies the thoroughfare to find our soulmates and other fractions. It’s hard enough for most people to meet individuals they properly click with.
And when finding a partner who shares your faith is thrown into the mix, the challenge ballons.
“Being a Christian definitely makes it more difficult because you have more specifications before you start. You often want different things from a relationship than most people around you so it can be hard to find like-minded people,” explained 25-year-old Christian Laura*.
So in response to the plight of the single general single girls and women, and the prevalent issue of dating, vlogger Innocent Mushamba made a didactic video in which he shared Five Reasons Why That Man Hasn’t Approached You Yet…
You can watch the video below:
