Words of Advice to The Gentleman’s Club

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So I’m up late and though I really don’t want to write about this I feel I have to let the men in on a little
secret. I mean I’ve been practicing abstinence and by abstinence I mean I’m trying to avoid writing when
I’m emotional because then my opinions come off as rants then people dismiss them. But it’s hardly ever
a rant mind you.

So here it is.
Every guy with a doting mother grows up believing that the world loves them. Mother loves them so, of
course, every other woman will. Whereas mother and daughter relationships are based on competition
and revenge, which leaves most women scarred by the way (because there can only be one winner)
Mother and son relationships are based on misplaced affection and unearned praise. I mean moms will
love their boys no matter what. As a consequence, men grow up thinking the world is their pedestal and
that all good things are owed to them(they aren’t). Men grow up confident and undaunted (which
explains why few women make big moves, it’s not laziness or inability but rather lifelong conditioning
and brainwashing). Men basically think they’re the shit.

But you aren’t.
Four out of five women cheat within the first five years of their marriage. Now when men do it, the
automatic assumption is that the woman is inadequate in some way. And yes sometimes the things we
do make it easier for infidelity to occur and we should stick to the argument when it occurs on both ends.

The lack of effort most men put into their relationships is honestly laughable. You give twenty percent
and actually believe that your crumbs are doing the things (gerarahiye). Sure you can pull that shit off for
a few years and get a chick who’s just interested in settling down but the man eventually, your laziness will backfire.

Yes, your mothers applauded you guys for your minimal efforts but in the real world, including your
relationships, that shit won’t work. A lot of you are so busy trying to get your women to prove their
worth that you’ve lost touch with the reality of the shit bags you are. And that’s why eighty percent of
you are being cheated on.

Some of you are big babies with the emotional intelligence of toddlers, you’re moody, unstable, you
pout and throw tantrums and you actually think any normal woman finds that shit entertaining. It’s
boring. Nothing is more pathetic than a moody guy who gets into a fit over any minor issue. It makes it
easier for anyone’s mind(and eventually body) to wander.

Some of you smell too by the way. I don’t know why your mom’s never taught you the importance of
bathing. We can smell it guys and it’s not attractive, who told you that your bad body odor was a gift.
And please wash your clothes, single bachelor’s, anyone can smell dirty deodorized clothes. If it’s too
much of an effort find a part-time maid or people who perform piece jobs. Or better yet get those
mothers who love you so much to do your laundry. It’s disgusting.

Smelly shoes aren’t good guys, socks are cheap, a dollar for three pairs. I once dated a guy who always
smelt like laundry that hadn’t dried properly, it was painful (on my nostrils). Please also exercise guys, all
that alcohol and meat will lead to a malfunctioning plumbing system, I know a lot of you like to then
cash in on the for the better or worse stuff round about that time, it’s sad and it doesn’t work, your
wives will still cheat. And don’t think those seven hours pills will save you, you will have a stroke and die.

Finally a few more tips. If you’re a prude and don’t believe in getting freaky with your woman just know
she’s getting freaky elsewhere.

You are not God’s gift to the world and besides that thing between your legs, which most of you can’t
even use, you don’t even have interesting personalities. A lot of you are boring so unless you’re creative
in the bedroom I strongly suggest you at least have a personality. The truth is a lot of you just aren’t that
nice to look at, so please stop being delusional.

Even men should make an effort and if you believe you’re the exception. You’re likely being cheated on
because of that attitude.

You’re welcome!

Valerie Tendai Chatindo is a biochemistry graduate, entrepreneur, and digital storyteller. Her work has been featured in Enthuse Magazine and Hallelujah Magazine. Her articles which have been published in The Kalahari Really “Big Brother is Always Watching”, “Twenty Fight” and “Marriageability” include. She has recently been shortlisted for the African Cradle African Heroines short story competition for her story “Sheba-Her Unmaking”. The 26-year-old lives in Harare, Zimbabwe with her cat Muffins. You can follow on Twitter@tendy_vchatndo

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